Liking vs. respecting, and generally being <3

Too much good stuff has happened this week.  #1 Fallout: New Vegas was released – z0mg – and it is fucking rad.  #2 the first episode of The Walking Dead TV series was leaked online and it is fucking awesome…not at all campy like you might expect.  #3  I seem to be in full-blown adoration mode with my boyfriend, though I guess that is the same as last week (and the week before, really) but continues to amaze me anyway. 

That whole early-phase puppy love thing where you lay in bed and kiss all day is always amazing, but actually having some respect for your partner at the same time is a much different experience.  I tend to find these things mutually exclusive; either I’m all wrapped up in someone but don’t truly have any sort of deep respect for them, or I respect someone but I’m not really all that into them.  I think that this is largely because the kind of people who throw themselves headlong into relationships are generally sort of immature and emotionally loose (present company excluded of course, ahem) whereas those who are more reserved have a lot more self-respect and sense of personal identity.  It’s easy to get wrapped up in someone who pretends to be whatever you want them to be, and a lot harder to connect with someone that is very much their own person.  The kind of people I respect are typically very principled, controlled, and have a deep sense of personal honor…all of which generally means they’re kind of a cold fish.  The people I usually get into are passionate, pretty, emotionally obsessive and as a result often wildly immature.  The two types rarely exist in one person.  My dude seems to be a rare case of the former that – according to pretty much everybody he knows – made a seriously rare exception in my case by getting hotly involved with me without reservation.  He seems like a good person, but more importantly to me, he doesn’t seem like a weak person.

For those of you who have been curious, this is a clearer picture of him (a few years old but I like this one best).  Obviously he’s a veteran.  He’s a few years older than me, which I’ve always preferred because young guys piss me off.  He spent 10 years in the Army (Field Artillery Officer) and went through two wars, which is probably why he can deal with me (cuz I’m a pain in the ass but I’ve got nothing on being shot at).  He’s really reserved and introverted in general but around me he’s a total kitten.  And omg, he reads as much as I do – that totally makes me <3 all over the place.

Other than being totally gay over some guy, I’m super excited to be heading to Philly to see Coral on the 28th.  I need a vacation, though I suspect that I will spend the more time around her getting my ass whipped into shape than I will relaxing.  But a change of scene = good stuff.  Also, it looks like I may be in NYC with her for Halloween…and I can’t think of if I know anyone in NYC off the top of my head?  I get the feeling I’m forgetting people that I might actually want to see while I’m out there >_<

Between the constant affection, Fallout, wayyyyy too much stuff on my reading list and my upcoming vacation I don’t think I’ll have a lot of free time for a little while.


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